Nightmares, Wrenches, and Best Laid Plans

This morning, I was woken up by a nightmare. This nightmare was something that stuck with me. I know you've had that experience where you wake up, and your energy's completely thrown off. I went in my front room as I always do, did some yoga, and got ready to do my Daily GPS. I went into my office. I was standing in front of my vision board. That nightmare was still in my brain! I could not shake it.

The energy that the nightmare created was really not good. It was really low down on the vibrational scale. So I tried for a little bit, maybe a minute or two, and decided this is not working. So I went to Clint, my husband, who has the most peaceful, calm energy. He's fantastic with animals. Wild animals will literally come up to him, little squirrels or whatever, and climb up his leg. He has that connective energy with nature that is almost child-like, innocent, and pure. So I went to him. That was the kind of energy I needed to connect with. I told him what was going on, that I'd had this nightmare, told him a little bit about it, and I said, “I can't shake this energy.”

I had tried connecting with God. I tried to do my Daily GPS…nothing was working. So we spent a little bit of time together. He was able to help me get back into a positive energy state, a high vibration. I'm not saying positive, as positive equals good, and negative equals bad. That's another subject for another day. That would take hours to discuss. There's no such thing as good and bad, all things work together for good, so it’s all good. A magnet has positive and negative energy; they're both good. Let’s call it high vibration and low vibration. So Clint was able to get me back into that high-vibration state so that I could spend some time preparing this message for you. I feel completely back into that pure high-vibration energy. I’m so glad I reached out to him.

We all have experiences where we get thrown. I can think of two examples right now where a good friend made an off-hand comment to me about me. She thought that she was noticing something that I already knew. But there was something about her saying it out loud; it felt criticism. It completely threw me.

Another example was when I was a passenger in a car; somebody else was driving. We were in really thick traffic; people were darting in and out of lanes to get where they needed to go. Suddenly my friend, who was driving, started yelling at these random drivers, swearing at them, and criticizing them. They were just trying to do what we were trying to do, get through traffic to get where we wanted to go. That one literally gave me heart and chest pains. I started getting stressed out. I have a history of two serious heart episodes. And I started having chest pains because of her outburst. We were driving along; it happened without warning. Sometimes things happen. We might be at a holiday party, somebody says something, or we might be Christmas shopping, it's really busy, maybe the traffic, or maybe there are so many people in the stores. Even shopping online, everybody's trying to get the same thing that you want to get, so you realize that you're not going to be able to get it in time for Christmas. Anything can happen in a moment that would throw our energy from high…feeling connected to God, partnering with God, having an amazing holiday with abundance, peace, flow…to zoom, we're down to this low energy. For me this morning, I had a dream that I woke up to. What I have noticed is that a lot of times when we have situations that throw us, it is such an immediate response.

I  thought of one yesterday. They happen all the time. I’m the director for our church choir. Right now we're preparing for our Christmas performance. Our accompanist came to me and asked if someone else could play the piano for our performance the next week. I had my plan down, everybody was in their places, and now she is wanting to throw a wrench in my works by suggesting a completely different accompanist for the actual performance…What? We talked about it later and got it worked out, but that quick thing threw me. My first initial thought and feeling was to lash out. “Are you kidding me? You told me you're going to be there and now you're bailing!” I mean, that is the immediate response a lot of times if we don't have a plan.

The problem is if we do that immediate response, we are feeding the same energy that threw us in the first place. If I immediately respond back with the same energy that threw me into a tail spin, then what's that going to do? It is  going to perpetuate that low vibration energy. This incident that happened yesterday, my accompanist thinking it wouldn’t matter if she didn’t show up, I didn't know what to say. I knew what I wanted to say, but I didn't say it. Then as I was driving home from church, I thought, I need to call her. We need to get this aired out. We need to get this straightened out. I did give her a call, we talked about it and she's find, we are fine. I heard her and she heard me. It was a really positive (high vibration) experience. We both had a minute to  step away and come back together. That's a really good plan if you are set off. Instead of immediately lashing out, step away and maybe see what is happening within this person to get clear. 

The ultimate goal is that we want to get back to that high vibration where we can partner with God. we can get back into that feeling of flow, peace, the energy that is going to take us through the holidays really, really well. That's a plan. For my plan, if my immediate go-to's aren't working, I go to Clint. By rubbing shoulders with him, just being in his space, I can absorb his energy which helps me get back to my high vibration energy. 

So right now I do want to help us come up with a plan. If we don't have a plan, the immediate desire is to respond in kind, just like the person who triggered us is acting. This person's energy might not be exactly high, or maybe it is high, but you perceive it as low. Like with the person who shared an observation, that felt like criticism. She was trying to be nice but I misinterpreted. She said, “I thought you already knew that about yourself.” Because we are friends, I could say openly, “no, I didn't know that and I didn't need you to tell me.” That one did turn out well. It is good when we get some feedback.

I also hope that one of the parts of your plan is connecting with God. Yes, absolutely connecting with God, and also connecting with the other person who triggered you. I did yesterday with my accompanist. And I also hope that part of your plan is to have a fall-back person who always seems to be at peace, someone who can help you wrap up in peaceful energy to get yourself back into a high vibration state.

To connect with anyone, really connect, we have to match energy. So if they are in a high vibration state, you have to raise your level of energy to connect with them. Imagine how high you can get by connecting with God! 

So let’s review.  

1- Step 1 is to connect with another person. First, go to the person who caused the trigger, if they're a safe person that you'd be able to connect with and air things out, then both of you are lifted. If not, find somebody who normally has that high vibration energy that you can connect with safely, maybe share some of the details to get them off your chest, but not to strengthen your side of the story. (Hint: never go to somebody that is going to give substance to the low vibration by agreeing with your side). The ultimate goal is to get back up to the highest vibration. Always go to somebody that has that high vibration so you can match it. 

2- We know God has high vibration energy, we know Jesus Christ does. So Step 2 is to go to God.

3- Take a moment right now and be aware of some of the people around you. Part of your plan should be to step away, to not immediately react, to take a moment and connect with yourself to see what you can learn, to see what's really going on. When that person shared some feedback with me, I was able to step away. I did respond to her because she's a safe place to do that. But then I stepped away. I was able to see that she was right. I do need to make some changes. So Step 3 of your plan is to connect with yourself. 

Connecting with God, connecting with yourself, connecting with somebody else. that's true for basically everything. That's the way we were created…to have an innate desire to connect with God, connect with our highest spiritual self and connect with others. 

What do you need to be successful with your plan?

1- Be aware of some really high vibration people that are in your life. All you need is one, but go ahead and write down three or four. Maybe that person isn't available right away when you are feeling a little bit low. 

2- Write out your plan. 

 2a- How are you going to connect with God? What is the way that you connect with God? Do you connect with him in prayer? Do you connect with him in meditation? Maybe you go to your sanctuary dedicated specifically to connecting with God. Maybe it is in your Daily GPS. Whatever your plan is, make it simple. 

  2b- What is the best way for you to connect with yourself? Do you lock yourself in the bathroom? Do you turn on some music? Do you take a bubble bath? Do you scream into a pillow? Do you exercise? Do you go out in nature, take a little walk around your yard, hear the leaves crunching underneath your feet? What is the best way for you to connect with yourself to really honor those feelings that you're having, that low vibration feeling, to sit with it, to allow it with no judgment to cool off, simmer down.

   2c- Who are you going to connect with? You will know the best way to connect with that person. Is it the person who triggered you, or a safe person who has high vibration energy  most of the time.

Especially as we go through the holidays, there are going to be lots of opportunities for us to interact with people, to be in situations where we're up against a deadline or we're stressed. Some behavior or some experience, some circumstance, some situation could happen that would send us over the top. When that happens, this is your plan. 

It's great to have a Plan. Your plan is to give yourself the gift of stepping away and not immediately saying something you're going to regret later. Say, “can I have a minute?” Step away, then activate your plan. If your plan works, you can go back to being your high vibration self. That's awesome. If Plan A doesn't work, then it's good to know that we can always have a Plan B. For that, here is a link to one of our Daily Gratitude Call podcast episodes that we did a while back with some really great tips. It’s called Gratitude for Plan B https://wylenebenson.com/gratitude-for-plan-b/  

You can be confident going into the holidays with your plan, and knowing there's always a Plan B as well. so you can handle anything.